Parenting 101: Is there a right formula for disciplining?

Friday, December 08, 2017

The answer is NO, there isn't.

Just this morning - I was so angry at Kailee because she opened toys that was meant for some of her friends.  She knew these toys were for her friends as we were preparing them the other day.  I have just set them aside and I was planning to wrap them tonight.

As I was about to wear my shoes, I noticed that there were empty boxes of the said toy on the trash bin.  I could feel blood rising, I call Kailee and Connor.  When they saw me, Kailee had this guilty look in her eyes.  I asked them both who opened the toys.  The pointed to one another.  Connor said *Atchi opened it!* then Kailee said in return *He opened it too!*

If you were in my shoes, what would you have done?

What I did?  I was so angry that I wanted to throw a fit.  I had to be controlled.  It's so effing hard to control your anger with the kids.  Super hard.  REALLY SUPER HARD!  I really wanted to scream!  But I couldn't and so I did the next best thing - I spoke in a very very very LOUD voice.  I know it might be a small thing this issue, but to me, it was something I did not want to just easily pass and forgive immediately.  I don't want them to think that it's perfectly fine opening toys that are not meant for them.  I wanted them to know that I am angry at what they did.

I told Kailee that since she opened a few toys, that a few of her classmates won't be receiving anything from her.  She looked so worried and started to tear up.  Connor couldn't care less because he knew it wasn't for his friends.  I swear, I wanted to scream my head off, but I just spoke in a very loud voice that I was so disappointed and angry and she will get punished.   When she heard the word *punish* she cried even harder.  There are times when I reprimand Kailee that my heart melts when she starts to cry, but her crying this morning did not melt any part of my heart - what I felt was anger, sadness and almost giving up.

This parenting thing - I'm failing, I think.  It's effing hard!

I try and show them good things, being good, being thankful, being nice, being helpful, and especially being mindful.  But my goodness - they do the opposite.  It makes me wonder though - did my mom have a hard time raising us?  You know, I asked her this ha - she said that when we were young, we were really *mabait* we followed her every whim.  It makes me think - why are my children not like that?  I then realized because I acknowledge their feelings, I listen to their opinion and I let them express themselves.

Was I wrong?

I know they're still young and I have a long looooooooooong way to go, but at this stage - I feel like I'm starting to burn out.  I try not to read articles on parenting anymore because I get more confused!  Some say don't spank kids, well - I've tried talking to them and they seem to forget it the instant we finish the conversation, so I've resorted to spanking with a stick when they really misbehave and so something that deserves more than just a talk.

I remember watching this video of a mom saying that it's okay for her kids to *hate* her because a mom is NOT a friend, a mom is a mother and our role is to guide and make them into proper human beings to the world.

It's so tiring this parenting thing, when the kids are misbehaving.  But it's a joy when they're all good and happy and loving.

I love my children but sometimes - arghhhhhhh... I'm sure you all feel this.  It's not always LOVING.  Can't we all just get along?  As in really get along?

Lord, help us.

Life talaga...

Hahaha....

Multiple Destinations with Uber - POSSIBLE!

Wednesday, December 06, 2017

Now, it's possible - MULTIPLE Destinations with Uber!



I'm so happy, I have long wondered it this was possible and now - officially, it is possible!  Woohooo!  It's so nice that Uber has rolled this out this holiday season - it's perfect, right?

And it's so easy to do, with just clicks on your Uber app.  Wonderful right?

Now, you can drop off gift with ease, no need to book and rebook trips!  You can book up to three (3) stops using this feature.  You can now seamlessly pick up friends along the way with ease and comfort.  The route is now clear to the driver, no more confusion, miscommunication and mix-up.  This will be a HUGE help to all Uber riders and partners in the country.  One this less to stress about, right?
How it works:

To use the feature, tap “where to?” and then “+”. Add the addresses of the stops, and then request for the ride. Changes in the route can be done in the app, in real time. The driver will be automatically given directions to each of the stops so riders can sit back and relax the whole way.

The multi-destination feature is one of the many product innovations that Uber has added to their app to enhance user experience. Other features include scheduling rides ahead of time, saving frequented places, sharing ETAs, and requesting a ride for a friend.

Proving that technology is ever improving, you can be sure to enjoy the holidays your way with Uber’s new and existing features.





GIVEAWAY!! Starbucks 2018 Planner

Monday, December 04, 2017

Yes, every year - I share this blessing of mine, the Starbucks Planner!  I pay it forward because #StarbucksPhilippines had been a very supportive partner throughout my blogging life.  I am very grateful to them and so I want to pay it forward to my blog readers.

This is what the Starbucks 2018 Planner looks like:


It even has a Pilipinas Starbucks card!


And some other thingies for your planner needs.  Cute, right?



So what are you waiting for?!?!

Joining is very very simple.  Just share this *@candishhh is giving away a Starbucks 2018 Planner. Share your blessings and pay it forward! Click on this link to JOIN NOW http://www.candishhh.com/2017/12/giveaway-starbucks-2018-planner.html* on your social media account and then, get the link of your share and leave the following details on the comment section.
a)  Name
b)  Email Address
c)  URL of your share to FB and Twitter (make sure that you LIKE my Facebook Page)

That's it!

You have until 11:59PM of December 23, 2017 to join.  I will pick a winner on December 24 and will be sending it out as soon as I get your email reply (so please check your email on the 24th!).

I will be shipping the planner for FREE nationwide.

What are you waiting for?!?!?!

Gooooo!!



Starbucks 20th Anniversary + Merchandise

Friday, December 01, 2017

I remember it as if it were only yesterday, the first Starbucks store opening in 6750 Makati.  I have an aunt who is a huge HUGE fan of Starbucks and was giddy with excitement.  I remember too that she kept her receipt.  I wonder where that receipt is now.  Hahahaha!!  I remember we would go every Sunday to Starbucks for the next few months, it was a *reward* for us nieces and nephews for going with them to visit my Angkong in Manila Memorial.

I can't believe that it has been 20 years already.



As part of the Starbucks 20th Anniversary, they are launching these beautiful limited edition merchandise this afternoon at 2:00PM in their 6750 store.

Look at those beauties.












Matilda + Promil: Get a chance to watch for FREE!!

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Get a change to win FREE tickets to watch Matilda at the Meralco Theater when you buy Promil!  It's so easy to join!  Just log into http://www.promilfour-matilda.com/ and fill in the necessary information.







I finally took Kailee to her first play - Matilda.  I was nervous because I was not sure if she'll stay put while watching.  Good thing, I was able to bring my two nieces - who are veterans in watching plays.  We were just in time.  I honestly forgot that I enjoyed watching plays.  So when Matilda started, I had this nostalgic feeling like I was a child again watching my first play.  

The set was beautifully made.  I forgot how good the set designers are with making the props.  The lighting too was wonderful and the oh sooooo perfect sound system of a theater.  It really brought me back to when I was a lot younger.  

Every single actor on stage was amazing.  The kids most especially since they memorized all the lines and the songs and performed live!  Kailee was so engrossed and concentrated on what was happening on stage.  Kailee usually asks sooo many questions when we watch a movie in a movie theater, but this time - well, she was quiet and was observing.   I kept on glancing her way to see if she was bored - but she wasn't, she was very interested.

After watching, she told me that the kids were amazing.  I asked if she wanted to see another play and she said yes with her eyes beaming with happiness.

Achievement unlocked!

Thank you Yvette and Promil for this wonderful opportunity.  Thank you too for sharing this show to Promil users - it's such a wonderful way to pay it forward.